That awkward moment when you actually WANT a baby..? The interesting shift from prevention to procreation.

Baby, fertility, guide, How-to, Lifestyle

AHHHH…. we are getting super personal and vulnerable today my friends…. so here goes.

Let’s cut right to it.

Most of us spend the majority of our young lives doing all that we can to prevent pregnancy.

And then, all of a sudden, like a freight train coming to a screeching halt…one finds themselves in a position where the prospect of creating a miniature version of themselves…

becomes desirable. 

In my case, I met the love of my life, got married, and…. like the cliche playground song goes “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage”…. 

For many of us, this moment is an especially strange feeling. Switching our mindset from preventing pregnancy to dreaming about it… is a trip, y’all. A 360 turn in every way possible.

Do we, personally, want a child this instant? 

No, nope, nah, nix, nay.

However, in the next year or two, we would love to be parents. More than anything else in the world, to be quite frank. 

So here is the rub…

Because most of us have solely focused on avoiding  pregnancy for the majority of our lives, many of us (myself included) don’t know much about fertility and actually  becoming pregnant/maintaining a healthy pregnancy. 

Therefore, a lack of knowledge regarding the prospect of having children, elicits crazy fears within. Concerns you never knew you had… until BOOM…you’re there…

Some of them include:

  • What if I can’t get pregnant?

  • What if we miscarry?

  • What if my child or pregnancy has major complications?

  • What if I face post-partum depression?

  • How old is ‘too old’ to get pregnant?

The list goes on, and if you have been in this situation… you can relate.

But what if I told you there was something you could do, to alleviate aforementioned anxiety…? 

Because… there is.

Which has inspired me to share what I have done to take charge of my fertility, health, and mental well being…. 

(Please note: I am NOT A DOCTOR, and am not qualified to give medical advice. This post is simply sharing my personal experiences thus far. Also, I am under the care of a physician) 

1. Modern Fertility– an at home fertility test, for any woman.


Aka God’s gift to empowered females everywhere.  This is an at-home blood test of dreams. The best part? Even if you do not want kids now, but maybe want them in 10 years… or just want to know more about your body…it is the perfect way of figuring our your options…and a realistic  baby-makin’ timeline. 

Knowledge is power, ladies. Take charge of your fertility, and know where you stand.

So how does the test work?

Simple. Everything is provided in a small box with easy to follow instructions. It is literally this convenient….


After mailing in your sample, the turn around time is insanely speedy (like one week!).  A result link is sent directly to your inbox, when the processing is complete. I should add, Modern Fertility has extraordinarily helpful customer service, should you need assistance. 

Modern fertility provides a comprehensive amount of physician-reviewed information. I wanted to share my personal results, and these are only a portion of them.

 I was so nervous to view my results… not going to lie. BUT they calmly reassured me, this test is only a baseline. The perfect starting place in understanding what is going on inside. I found out that my testosterone level was the only hormone out of  ‘normal’ range, which I will be discussing with my doctor. Everything else was right where it should be, YEY!! 

After getting the results, a free call with a fertility nurse can be scheduled to better understand your next steps. How cool is that?!

The kit retails at $199.00 and is completely worth it, especially those of us who do not have great insurance. If I were to to these tests in office, it would be hundreds of dollars. My doctor actually recommended Modern Fertility to me.

Keeping this in mind, the folks at Modern Fertility have been so generous to offer my readers $10.00 off!  By clicking here or on any of the pictures in this post, you can get your kit for $189.00!

Get one, girl.


2. PreMama Wellness Supplements

Another way I am preparing my body for the marathon, that is pregnancy, is through the use of PreMama supplements.5

(Feel free to use my code: KATIEW15 for 15% off your order)

If you are thinking about pregnancy, taking a good prenatal vitamin at least 3 months before trying to conceive is suggested. PreMama’s is the perfect option. It comes in a capsule or gummy form.

They also have a system of supplements for women which can be used before, during, and after pregnancy. I am currently using the ‘birth control cleanse’ supplement. I will then transition into the step 2 ‘conceive’ supplement, when we are ready.

When I am pregnant (eventually) I will use the ‘carry’, followed by the ‘care’ supplements after giving birth. They have pre-mamas and mama’s alike – totally covered!


Because teamwork makes the dream work… especially when it comes to reproduction, PreMama has future Dads covered too. Get ya’ man on some baby makin’ supplements, gals.

Bonus: This product could also double as a *hint, hint I’m ready to talk about having a baby* gift under the tree this year… 😉

Just sayin’…

Well friends, there you have it. Our honest and personal pre-pregnancy journey thus far … I do feel highly vulnerable writing about this chapter of our lives. There are countless unknowns which lie ahead.

But, I’m glad I did.

This blog has always been about ‘being real’, and I’ll never skimp on that.

I truly hope this post reaches someone who may be looking for answers, or is feeling unsure of how to take charge of their reproductive health. 

Thanks for tuning in!


26 thoughts on “That awkward moment when you actually WANT a baby..? The interesting shift from prevention to procreation.

    1. You are so lucky!!! Unfortunately, my insurance would not cover that type of testing and it would have been about $1,200 for me to receive the same bloodwork. My doc actually recommended this test. 🙂 This seems to be the case for many people my age (sadly). Are you from the US? 🙂

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      1. Oh wow!!! Yes I’m from the US. I went to a fertility clinic and all blood tests, Ultrasound’s, and hysterosalpingogram were covered by insurance along with IUI’s and IVF. So sorry you have to pay… but ya compared to $1200 that’s a good price!

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      2. That is soooo amazing, how lucky!!! If we struggle to get pregnant I need to get on whatever insurance you have!!!! IVF would be about 12K for us, if we needed it. Also, I was just reading your blog a bit and I am so sorry for all that you have gone through with having babies!!! What a tough road you have been down. You are an incredibly strong person!!!!

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      3. Thank you! I don’t consider myself strong but I appreciate it. I pray you don’t struggle to get pregnant. I would recommend if you are trying to either do temping( I tried and I never got the hang of it, but I know several women it worked for), getting to know cervical mucus, or the one thing that helped me most was opk’s. I bought the clear blue digital the regular one not the advanced. And I actually conceived twice using it. Just figuring out your most fertile days will help you get pregnant!!

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  1. I enjoyed reading your blog and had to smile thinking of how different the world is today than when I became pregnant with each of my three children. I hope your experience is as great as mine was and I continue to be blessed by the adults my children have become. Also, thank you for the follow of my blog. I hope it keeps your spirit encouraged.

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  2. The shift in perspective and new set of worries it comes with is so true. I’ve learned an amazing amount about my body, cycles, and fertility through the Creighton method.


  3. The secret is to be relaxed about it… and Crown Royal and Coke. 😂❤️ I started having babies late. I was 38 with my first and 41 with my second. Just relax, have fun with it and don’t go all fertility crazy, unless it seems like you guys are really having a tough time making it happen. A sassy Jersey girl gave my ex and I a couple of mini bottles of Crown Royal on a plane trip back east because we got on this subject with her before we had our first baby. Let’s just say…it worked. 😂😂😂 In all seriousness though, sending you good, positive vibes!! ❤️


  4. none of this was around when we wanted to start a family – and couldn’t. A fifteen year journey eventually led us to our first child, adopted from India. Six years later he was joined by his brother from the Philippines. We have been truly blessed. Life and fertility was very different back then. I wish you luck and success. And thank you so much for the follow, Katie.


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